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Allyship can take many forms, such as emotional support, being there for people when they come out, and being a voice when homophobia and transphobia are present. If you’re a member of the Queer community, here’s some tips for being there for everyone.
1. Listen
Regardless of your position either inside or outside of the Queer community — it’s your job to listen. Make sure when someone speaks about their experience that you make space and time for people to discuss their experience if and when they’re ready.
Whether you’re newly out, or a seasoned sea witch Queer, nobody better understands their experience better than themselves. Whether you have views on various letters of the LGBTQAI+ community, it’s your job to sit with any discomfort or newness when hearing about others’ lives and identities. Learning to empathise with differences in the Queer community will only deepen and broaden our connection to each other. Queer people are experts in their own lives, and one narrative doesn’t fit us all.
Don’t walk around yelling to high heaven about what a great ally you are. We will know (since there’s like, 5 Queers in NZ) sooner or later, and your self promotion is often a red flag.
