What you’ve always wanted to know — right from the horse’s mouth
Asexuality is one of the most misunderstood members of the LGBTQIA family. Oft forgotten entirely or met with confusion as queers and heteros alike grapple with the concept of not wanting to fuck.
Not wanting to put words in the mouths of others, we sat down with a rad asexual pal to get the lowdown on things she wishes other people understood.
Asexuality is not abstinence
There is a strange idea that asexuals people are just people who have chosen not to have sex. Being asexual isn’t like going on a diet, where you go without things you want or enjoy for a period…
Why you need it, and what to do with it
Whether you’re new to packing or an deft old hand — you’ll know how packers and STPs can stick to everything. Unless you want to collect bits of fluff, dirt, you, or remnants of glitter, then you’ll definitely want to grab yourself a pot or two of packer dust.
Packer dust extends the life of your packer or STP, and leaves it feeling silky smooth. A lack of friction or sticking to your inner bits means your packer is less likely to tear or have rub marks, and will be far more comfortable for you to wear. …
Do you know the Hanky Code?
The Hanky Code emerged in the USA in the 1970’s (some say New York on the East coast, some say San Francisco on the West coast) as a way to signal (using back pockets) to others in the Queer community just what exactly you’re into. By simply sneaking a glance at the booty, anyone who knows what’s up can either give you a knowing nod, a tight lipped smile, or come over and ask to buy you a drink.
The left side of the body signifies that you’re in a Top or Dominant role, while the right side of your…
& how to show tf up
Allyship can take many forms, such as emotional support, being there for people when they come out, and being a voice when homophobia and transphobia are present. If you’re a member of the Queer community, here’s some tips for being there for everyone.
1. Listen
Regardless of your position either inside or outside of the Queer community — it’s your job to listen. Make sure when someone speaks about their experience that you make space and time for people to discuss their experience if and when they’re ready.
Whether you’re newly out, or a seasoned sea witch Queer, nobody better understands their…
What the chillest dude can teach you about life
Who doesn’t love Bob Ross? The permed man of our dreams, putting people to sleep since 1983. Whether you're here for him or not, his chill persona was mesmerising. Apparently he wasn’t the most chill in real life, but nobody is. I don’t care, Bob Ross is my dad, and he’s your dad too.
Dad Ross had a tonne of idioms that make him all the more charming and lovable, and as far as fatherly advice go — they’re spot on. …
A guide to growing engagement and reaching the right people
To grow your business and create authentic relationships with your customers there’s no more powerful tool than social media. Instagram, Facebook, Twitter & Pinterest allow you to reach new leads en masse without spending hours typing out long cold pitch emails or trying to funnel customers to your website.
Research reigns supreme when creating a hashtag strategy. By doing your due diligence before creating a content roadmap you’ll set your company up for success, not to mention learning essential skills to bolster product launches, campaigns, and brand awareness.
Rather than letting your content free into the wilderness that is the…
An ode to the movie that saved me from 9–5
“It’s not that I’m lazy… it’s that I just don’t care.”- Peter Gibbons
Hey Peter, what’s happening?
- A crawling traffic jam
2. Hip-hop loving white nerd bussin’ out the n-word
3. Elderly man with a walker moving faster than the cars
4. Overwhelming road rage
5. MILTON
Didn’t you get the memo?
Office Space is 20 years old, and its sentiments still ring true in 2019.
Whether it’s the haunting image of Gary Cole sweatily enjoying his coffee in a nightmare, or chronic back pain — your body will let you know if you need to change your work environment…
A Metalhead’s Journey To Redemption
On the 1st of November, 2017, Ian Moir, Wellington musician known for metal acts Dark Divinity and Into Orbit, was blocked by Steve on Facebook.
Some people are able to move on after being shunned on a public platform. Others play tit for tat, and block the other person right back. For Ian, there were only questions. What caused the blocking? Could the relationship be mended? Would a beer help? Why, Steve, why?
Are we to be chained by an unwritten code of social media practice where the goalposts constantly move? How can we achieve a utopian ideal…
How people have treated me differently
I must confess — I’m not married.
Divorced, yes, but the thought of getting married again gives me the willies. I’m still young, not yet 31, however putting my eggs in one basket (figuratively , literally, and legally) puts me so far off I’m about to swear it off forever. There’s such a fullness I get from being alone that I’m not quite ready to give up.
I have a beautiful rose gold ring. It’s a plain band, just 1mm wide. I love it. Previously it’s been on my right hand (my dominant one), however this wonderful thing keeps happening whenever I eat where I swell up…
Lino printing — “Just do it” — Shia LaBeouf, 2015
I’ll let you in on a secret
I have all the artistic quality of a peanut. Not a fantastically outrageous peanut, or those cool double nut ones. Nope. A soft, crusty shell that’s full of dust and air.
As writers, we know we are capable of creativity. Even if it’s just thumping out a 1,500 word copy for a client on the benefits of wearing deodorant - you’re creating something. At University I’m trudging through 80,000 words of theses and papers that need to be readable — no mean feat. Clearly I’m creative. I know how to write a story and construct a narrative. …
Margot Q
Writer from Aotearoa New Zealand. Studying MA & MEd. Custodian of nearly $100k in student loans. www.margotq.com
